The Effects of Porn

Porn is enjoyable! It is a very pleasurable thing to watch. Those who look down on pornography tend do so because of cultural or religious reasons. I do not fall in that category. I believe sex can be used for many purposes outside of procreation. Nature is flexible.

While I do not cast pornography as ‘bad’, I do think there is pertinent information about it one must know. I do not wish anyone to suffer because they have ignorantly performed an act and are now reaping consequences they did not foresee. My goal is to make you aware.

Porn, like every seemingly trivial act, rewires your nervous system. Whether you know it or not, each and every single time you watch porn, you are training your nervous system. Training for what you may ask? You are training your nervous system to become aroused by a certain pattern. This doesn’t appear harmful until you compare porn to actual sex.

If you watch porn with a conscious eye like I have, you will realize that porn and sex are quite far apart from each other. How do they differ? Well, there are many differences, but the chief among them lies in arousal.

Porn arouses through exaggerated visuals and the setting is simply a combination of idleness with a computer. This pattern is very different than what you encounter with a partner. The pre-intercourse rituals of sex involve gazing, touching, hugging, kissing, holding, and rubbing until arousal. In other words, while porn arouses visually, actual sex arouses biochemically. You will not learn nor reinforce the biochemical pathways by watching porn. In fact, you will likely weaken them.

To further illustrate this point, I want you to try a small experiment. Assuming you are above the age of 18, I want you to watch a pornographic film and observe the gestures, their conversation, and how the actors have sex. While observing the scene, I want you to ask yourself… does this resemble the sex I have experienced in the past? The answer is of course not, these are paid actors. The problem is, however, that we not only tend to forget that porn is nothing like real sex, but our subconscious mind cannot tell the difference. As neurotransmitters are released from the intense pleasures of porn, neurons are wiring to form an arousal pathway. As the visual arousal pathway is reinforced, the biochemical one is weakened.

I meet many young men and women who have revealed to me that they have become incapable of ‘falling in love’. This seemingly strange phenomenon is not an accident. It represents individuals who have weakened their biochemical arousal mechanism to a point where they can no longer bond. They have become more responsive to visual images than human contact.

Although I wish to keep personal recommendations away from this article, I’d like to leave with a parting word. Porn is intensely pleasurable. As an observer, pornography can easily fool you into thinking that real sex is as pleasurable as porn is. It is not! Real sex involves work, endurance, self control, and self sacrifice to please your partner. When you watch porn, you are simply an observer indulging in intense pleasure. Porn is far more pleasurable than sex.

Unfortunately, young men and women are misguided into thinking that sex should be as intensely pleasurable as porn. In silly attempts, they try to recreate what they have observed but always come short. To save yourself from this lingering desire and tap into the higher realms of sex, I do suggest porn to be dropped as a habit. For those of you struggling to abandon porn, how to rewire your brain will be covered in the next article.

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